Sociologist Laura Carpenter delves into the intricacies of intimacy:
Researchers have tended to zero in on topics like adolescent sexuality or sex in the gay community, little snapshots that could be broken off and analyzed,” she said.
The trouble with that approach is the loss of the big picture within individual lives, the panorama of one sexual experience impacting another and having a cumulative effect.
“If you have an unpleasant virginity loss experience and feel bad about yourself afterwards, you may be less choosy about your next sex partner, who might not care about you or giving you pleasure,” Carpenter said.
“That might set you up for another situation where you’re unable to communicate about sex. People who aren’t able to communicate about sex are among other things, more likely to get sexually transmitted infections. Having a chronic sexually transmitted infection can be a pretty unpleasant thing, and certainly affects how you might respond to later partners and how they might relate to you.”